Hi everyone!

We have noticed a big influx of self-harmers here who upload photos of their own cuts. If you are one of those people, welcome! Now, let's get straight to the point of this post. We have observed that there has been an increase in romanticizing self-harm, which is something that we are not keen on.

The /h/selfharm flair rarely had OC (original content, the uploader is the one who did the cutting), but there has been a big increase recently. The flair has shifted from "watch someone cut" to "watch my cute cut". Therefore, we want to implement the following rule:

• Comments and posts that encourage/romanticize self-harm will be removed.

We don't want people to rile each other up by commenting on how pretty a cut is. We don't want people to upload their "cute cuts :3". Romanticizing self-harm is not allowed. By enforcing this rule, we hope to reduce these kinds of interactions with all posts.

We hope you understand. If anyone needs help with stopping self-harm or is interested in alternate coping methods that are not as damaging to the body, please let me know :) (been there, done that).

Thank you for your time !

(Posting this in /h/selfharm for more visibility)

Apart from this song, heres some advice:

Although when you generally think about self-harming, it is pretty much hard for you to focus on anything else or think about other things to do to cope healthily and thats especially for people who've done self harm for a very long time.

But generally when people typically think about doing it (including me), of course just try to do these if you feel these emotions while wanting to cope by self harming instead.

• If you're angry:

-Let that negative energy all out by running outside or doing other exercises, yes some people on this site no life like shit in there, but for the love of God going outside is free and only takes a couple of limbs assuming that all of you guys have arms and legs.

-Buying some stress free items (For example stress balls) may be considered childish, but it's a good way to distract yourself from doing other bad things to yourself. As a person with ADHD it is genuinely distracting and makes me forget that I even feel like wanting to do it myself.

-Hitting cushions also is pretty cool. Im assuming you all got cushions on your bed to punch on unless you guys decided to afford a phone to make your lives more miserable.

• If you feel sad

-Crying is not something illegal to do, especially when you're a guy as well. You don't need to listen to what the fuck society says because sometimes you don't need to man up a little in your life and just let it all out since a good cry can reduce stress from the chemicals it releases out of your body which are endorphins.

-Writing down your emotions on a notebook isn't such a bad idea too, you can do it in any way you'd like to write it as long as you have paper and a pencil/pen at least.

-Listen to calming music like sounds of rain/thunder/nature sounds, this also applies with white noise or also songs generally with cheerful instrumentals and positive lyrics.

-Asking your friend if you can have a little talk is always alright. (Hopefully you guys have friends at least ) you aren't a burden just for expressing how you feel because everyone in fact has feelings. If you dont have feelings then you're just an edgelord.

-Try a breathing exercise, breathe in through your nose for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 2 seconds and then breath out for 7 seconds.

• If you feel overwhelmed/numb

-Literally for the love of God don't go cutting yourself just because you feel numb, instead rub ice cubes on your skin. It seems like a stupid idea but it really isnt because it promotes sleep and offers temporary relief that eases anxiety.

-Watch some funny stuff on social medias or youtube. A good laugh can just make you forget why you were feeling negative in the first place.

-This seems childish but who the fuck cares, you can use a grounding exercise with your five senses using these steps. Simply just focus on what's in your surroundings and name:

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste

• If you feel alone:

-Go somewhere which is safe and public for example a park, you can invite your family members/friends/partner or you can also take your pet for a walk there if you have one.

-Calling your friend/family member can genuinely be helpful since it makes you realise that you don't have only yourself in your life.

-Listen to other people's stories on podcasts or videos and observe their experiences in their lives, this helps you realise that you arent the only person with the same struggles and that if that person handled that struggle by doing this certain advice then you could too.

-Call a helpline please. Self-harming shouldn't even be normalized nor should it even be encouraged, you should always google your helpline and feel free to copy and paste your helpline number in your device's notes or write it in your notebook or on a paper.

• If you feel ashamed to the point where you deserve to be punished:

-Realise that everyone makes mistakes, everyone is in the SAME LEVEL as you and that we are all human with the same consciousness. Failure and making mistakes is always okay and it's a lesson that life gives you so you avoid to do it all over again. Even if it seems like a whole loop for you, it's because that you haven't analysed the full patterns of why you keep on experiencing it, so try to learn how to realise it's patterns so you could realise the mistakes.

-Spend less time with people with a bad influence, sometimes people make you feel ashamed just to get a reaction from you/so they can feel good about themselves/so they can try to bring you down, in conclusion, there are people in our lives that try to manipulate us to make us seem like bad people. Obviously as well just try to spend more time with people who care about you since they help you develop well and distract yourself from awful thoughts.

• If you feel like you hate yourself to the point where you can't accept it so you hurt yourself:

-Fake being positive to yourself till you make it, or fake it till you make it. Look yourself on the mirror and think to yourself "I am actually really nice looking, I can for sure kick some ass!" or however you guys do it .

-Everyone has flaws in their lives, but obviously you only tend to look at the bad features on yourself because you are used to how you look because from all your lives you looked at yourself the most. You can try to take a picture of yourself, block out the feature that you hate the most and admire the rest of the features that you love on your face and body, you can brag about it, glorify it and whatever else that makes you feel good that is healthy to do.

-If you hate yourself mentally though, theres always time in your life for improvement, people's personalities including yours can always change from time to time as well, like days, weeks, months, it is clearly enough time to learn how to love and care for yourself.

• Apart from all these

-Get rid of all the items you use to harm yourself. Yes its easier said than done, but realise that the longer you have these things, the more you put yourself in hot water, if you don't do the right action then why complain since it doesn't even give an outcome in your life?

-Do something you love to do, like a hobby that you're experienced in for example sketching, running, sports etc.

-Write a safety plan so you avoid self harming more. For example:

First, writing down what you think that makes you want to self harm

Second, list down the coping strategies which are safe and helpful for you.

Third, list a way your family/friends can help you and support you in the way you want it to be and to inform them so you get what you want.

Lastly, and most importantly to not forget, contact details of your doctor or helpline.

-Do what's called "riding the wave" which is a way to delay self harm. It can be hard to delay self harm so starting with small amounts can help, like trying to wait 30 seconds before you self harm, if you succeed then wait 30 seconds again, you can later increase the time and repeat it until you conclude that you don't want to do it.

Oh yeah most importantly also you definitely don't want to fuck yourself up as much as Nickocado Avocado did himself.

Carrot is out now, remember that cutting is bad.

btw if you're gonna romanticize this post fuck off!

mid - deep styros will post more later

The most pics are from WPD

meow ;-;

He looks like he's a drug addict, so I guess that the thing of cutting his skin off the head is some effect.

Correct me if I'm wrong